Moms, You’re Not “Throwing Your Career Away” By Choosing What’s Best For Your Family.

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“You don’t want to throw your career away!”

Excuse me? My blood started to boil as I sat across from a woman I didn’t know very well. I had mentioned that my oldest child would be in kindergarten in a year and half, and I was contemplating how a shift from daycare to school might change my career path.

She immediately jumped to “throwing my career away.”

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And I was mad. Really mad.

Respect for the Stay-at-Home Mother

See here’s the deal. My mom stayed at home with me and my brother until I was in the second grade. She taught us, clothed us, bathed us, and was with us every moment of every day. Her full-time job was us. And now as a mother myself, I understand how hard this job was. But she did it with such grace.

Then when she went to work outside of the home her job was in the school system and had hours that aligned with ours. My mom worked her TAIL off teaching during the day and then immediately took care of all of our needs right after. Sun up to sun down.

I respect my mother immensely. She made a choice to leave a career in retail when I was born. She made a choice to work outside the home in a different industry with a schedule that worked when the time was right for her and our family. Never in one trillion years would I say that she threw her career away.

Respect for the Working Mother

I’ve made different choices so far as a parent. Not better, not worse. Different. When my son was born four years ago I went back to the office three months later. Same plan after my daughter was born 15 months later. I identify as a “work outside the home” mother and I’m proud of the work I do on a daily basis.

But someday I might make a change. Perhaps I’ll work less to accommodate school hours. Maybe I’ll build my own business. Maybe I’ll work more! Or, hold onto your seats, I might stop earning an income altogether.

I don’t know. You don’t know either really. Life happens. Our interests change. What matters to us can shift and evolve with circumstance, age, and growth. We need to honor that, be flexible, and be true to ourselves.

That doesn’t mean throwing anything away.

Becca Carnahan

Respect for YOU

If you are a stay-at-home parent, do not let anyone tell you that you’ve thrown your career away.

If you are a working parent, don’t let anyone tell you that you’ve thrown time with your children away.

You’re making the best decision you can make for yourself and your family. No one else can tell you what is best, or what should be valued, or what you should/could/or want to “throw away.”

Am I a little fired about this? YUP. Sure am. But I’m also glad it happened because it has inspired me to speak louder in my advocacy for your choices as a parent. And to fight for your career path – wherever that takes you.

Maybe you need to put a part of yourself on the shelf for a little while and wait for the right moment to bring it back down. Maybe you re-prioritize, refocus, reduce, realign, or reconsider. But as long as you know who you are and what’s important to you, you are not throwing ANYTHING away.

This story originally appeared on With Love, Becca

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