Walk into any home or family restaurant around dinnertime, and you’ll probably find that many families spend more time looking at their smart phones or game consoles than each other. Some even seem to prefer digital communication over actual face-to-face conversations, sending links to jokes or a funny cat video even as they’re passing the salt or a plate of biscuits.
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These are not profound observations, and it should not come as a surprise to know that the meaning of “family time”has drastically changed. In previous generations, time around the dinner table was an opportunity to teach manners, and children– in general– weren’t so scheduled. They had time to let their imaginations roam for a while, instead of being shuttled from school to practice to lesson to study group.
A teacher in Sweden noted the decline in children’s manners in a 2015 Facebook post, which has since been translated to English and shared more than 16,000 times. Do you agree with Jonas Harrysson – that something is lost when parents are constantly “spoiling and servicing”their kids, when getting ahead academically is considered a higher priority than teaching them “to play, to be a good friend, and to share,”and that children now “find it difficult to show gratitude to both other kids and adultsâ€?
Read his post in its entirety below …
I have worked with kids for almost 16 years and there are a few things that I’ve noticed children are becoming worse and worse at.
Children find it very difficult to be bored! There constantly needs to be something going on. Please stop spoiling and servicing your children. It’s not dangerous for them to be bored sometimes.
I’ve met many parents who are soooo proud that their kids can read and count before starting preschool. Well, I hate to break it to you, but reading and counting, they’ll learn soon enough. Teach them instead to play, to be a good friend, and to share.
My third point is that many children find it difficult to show gratitude to both other kids and adults. Can they get an “extra”one is unfortunately often a first question. “We only get one!?”is a common complaint I hear. What happened to PLEASE!? And thanks for dinner, and thanks for the ride, and so on?
I have no children yet, but if I do sometime in the future I will teach them to play, to be a good friend, to show gratitude and to be bored from time to time. When they learn those things, then will I teach them to read and count.
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