There are as many different parenting methods as there are parents because every child has unique needs.
Many adults have conquered their little one’s sleep training with the “cry it out” method, which is when they let their toddler learn to self-soothe. Others believe in attachment parenting, which is when they keep their child close at all times. Muhammed Nitoto of San Pedro, California falls in an area in-between.
Muhammed has two young daughters, and he’s already found that what worked for 2-year-old Zendaya isn’t a guarantee with 1-year-old Zuri. So when Zuri refused to go to sleep one night, he started off committed to letting her cry it out.
“She had been fussy all day, so at bedtime I kind of expected her to be difficult,” he explained. And she was, sobbing from her crib while her sweet dad listened over the monitor. Muhammed wondered if she wasn’t feeling well, and his approach slowly shifted.
“It’s something about hearing my daughter crying that gets under my skin,” he said. “Like even when I know nothing’s wrong and she’s just fussing, it bothers me, and I just want to pick her up and hold her close until she stops. I know I can’t do that all the time, but right now we gonna take our time on this growing up thing.”
So he went to check on her, and as soon as he did, it became clear that “she really just wanted comfort.” But he couldn’t take her out of the crib because he wanted the sweet girl sleeping in her own bed. So he compromised, doing what he could to make her happy while refusing to let her have whatever she wanted.
He later shared a video from his nursery camera on Instagram showing the moment he climbs into his baby’s crib. The presence of her father, who is 6 feet 2 inches tall, puts an instant stop to Zuri’s crying. Muhammed stays with her for 30 minutes before she falls asleep, and then he carefully removes himself and and tip-toes to his own bedroom.
This isn’t the first time he’s used this tactic, and the awesome dad has no regrets!
“Crying it out in my experience is hit or miss,” Muhammed said. “I think as a parent you have to have more than one way of doing things.”
We have to agree with him! Every parenting experience is unique, so let’s all remember not to judge moms and dads who are doing their best to meet their children’s needs. After all, just because something works for one kid doesn’t mean it will work for others.
Watch the sweet moment between Muhammed and Zuri below, and share this story with tired parents who may need encouragement!
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