Becoming pregnant and having a child can be one of the most exciting times in a woman’s life, but it isn’t always an easy road to get there.
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There are so many combining factors; the timing has to be perfect in order to conceive, and even then there is very little you can do to control the development of your baby during pregnancy.
Though it is incredibly common to struggle with pregnancy and fertility, the battle that is faced by many women around the world goes largely unnoticed due to the sense of secrecy surrounding conceiving. Women are encouraged to keep their pregnancy private until the end of the first trimester, partly because they want to surprise their loved ones and partly so that no one is disappointed when it doesn’t work out.
But having the support of the people they love is exactly what they need most, no matter how the pregnancy ends.
For Mother’s Day this year, Sarah Walsh, an anchor for SportsCenter, posted a photo on Instagram of her twins with a caption that is going viral around the world.
Sitting in between her baby boy Brees and baby girl Hutton, Sarah recounts the story of when she miscarried for the first time while reporting on air. From that time on, Sarah and her husband, Matt Buschmann, would struggle with conceiving a child that could make it to full term.
And then in early February of this year, Sarah gave birth to not just one but two babies and all of their dreams came true.
Missing Super Bowl festivities for the very best reason this year. I never said anything publicly about being pregnant for personal reasons. There were times we didn't know if we could have a baby. On Monday, we were lucky enough to have two. Hutton and Brees Buschmann are currently hanging in the nicu. We want them to get bigger, they want us to figure out how to be parents. They'll likely succeed first.
Though it may not seem like many women suffer through pregnancy loss, the truth is that as many as 50 percent of pregnancies may end in miscarriage, according to the March of Dimes. With this type of heartbreaking loss being so incredibly common, it is important to celebrate each new pregnancy no matter how loudly or quietly you do it.
For Sarah, after so much loss and a very quiet pregnancy, she decided that this Mother’s Day was the time to share her child loss journey. Read on for Sarah’s own words below.
My mother bought them these onesies because she thought they were funny. For us, they're especially poignant. Finding a good egg didn't come easy for me, and I suspect there are many people out there facing the same struggle. The road down a dark path began while hosting Sportscenter on the road from Alabama. I arrived in Tuscaloosa almost three months pregnant. I wouldn't return the same way. The juxtaposition of college kids going nuts behind our set, while I was losing a baby on it, was surreal. I was scared, nobody knew I was pregnant, so I did the show while having a miscarriage. On television. My husband had to watch this unfold from more than a thousand miles away, texting me hospital options during commercial breaks. It would get worse. Two more failed pregnancies. More than once, I'd have surgery one day and be on SportsCenter the next so as not to draw attention to my situation. We then went down the IVF road of endless shots and procedures. After several rounds, we could only salvage two eggs. I refused to even use them for a long time, because I couldn't bear the idea of all hope being gone. I blew off pregnancy tests, scared to know if it worked. It had. Times two. It was exciting news, but we knew better than to celebrate. So I spent a third straight football season pregnant, strategically picking out clothes and standing at certain angles, using scripts to hide my stomach. There would be no baby announcement, no shower, we didn't buy a single thing in preparation for the babies, because I wasn't sure they'd show up. We told very few people we were pregnant, and almost no one there were two. For those that thought I was weirdly quiet about my pregnancy, now you know why. For as long as I can remember I hosted Sportscenter on Mother's Day, and the last couple years doing that have been personally brutal. An hours-long reminder of everything that had gone wrong. I wasn't on tv today, and I'm not sure when I will be again, but instead I got to hang with these two good eggs. My ONLY good eggs. And I know how lucky I really am. #twins #ivf
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