Marriage is tough, and sometimes it just doesn’t work out in spite of all the best intentions. Yet for those who have children, it’s crucial to find a middle ground from which to parent; to act as a team for the important job of raising your kids.
Blake Higginbotham of Nederland, Texas understands the concept of co-parenting after divorce better than most. He recently took to Facebook to share his thoughts after his former wife got engaged, and his words were so sweet and full of wisdom that his post ended up going viral.
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“This is my ex wife. The mother of my 3 children. The woman who brought all 3 of my children into this world,” Blake’s post began. Sharing a photograph of his ex, Heather Higginbotham, on the day she got engaged, Blake explained that he and Heather had gotten married very young, and after having their three beautiful children together, things had fallen apart.
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Blake described their divorce as “bitter,” and anyone who has ever been through the painful process of separating your lives after many years together can attest to the feelings of resentment and bitterness that often occur. The good news is that time heals all wounds, and after three years apart, Blake is now able to look back at their relationship with fondness instead of bitterness. He’s able to see Heather as a great mother to their kids, and most importantly, he has the emotional maturity to want good things for her.
“We share the kids evenly and support them in everything they do. We act as a team,” Blake explained. “The man she’s with is a great guy. He’s great to my kids and they love him to death. As a father , I couldn’t ask for anything more. I sincerely wish you both the best. I’m thankful for many things including y’all’s relationship.
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“To anyone divorced, I encourage you with all of me to try and look at this from a different angle. Just because you didn’t workout as husband and wife doesn’t mean you can’t be mom and dad.”
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They say that hindsight is 20/20, and Blake’s attitude reflects that theory. Sometimes all you need is a little bit of distance from the pain to see that everything works out for a reason in the end. Having faith that you’re on the right path is tough, but it’s so worth it in the end! At the end of the day, you will always have the memories you created when you were together, and now you can create new memories as friends and co-parents to your children.
Heather herself chimed in, writing “We make a great team! And are so blessed! I couldn’t ask for a better co-parenting relationship.”
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Wise words indeed, Blake. If you agree, please share Blake’s message of encouragement today!
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