Making friends as an adult is challenging enough, but for introverts who tend to shy away from new social situations, it can be especially tricky.
Even if you prefer your own company most of the time, everyone needs a friend they can laugh with and lean on! Here are a few ways to put yourself out there and make connections.
1. Be yourself.
You don’t need to be smarter, funnier, or more like someone else for your friendship to appeal to others. There are plenty of people out there who will appreciate you exactly as you are! Stay true to yourself, and you’ll attract the right people in no time.
2. Figure out how many friends you can handle first.
Making too many friends at once will only end with you overextending yourself and spending less quality time with the people who matter most. Choose those in your social circle carefully so you have enough time and energy for everyone, including yourself.
3. Say “yes” more.
If your first instinct is to turn down invitations for coffee, lunch, or other get-togethers, try accepting them instead. Push yourself out of your comfort zone. It may feel awkward at first, but it will help you get to know that person better.
4. Set small goals for socializing.
Make it a point to chat with a coworker, surprise a neighbor with a plate of cookies, or arrange a study session with a classmate. Not only will this get you more used to social situations, but it will also help you make friends in the process!
5. Pursue your interests.
The best way to meet people who share your interests is by getting out there and enjoying them! Go for a hike and greet the regulars you see on the trail, or join a book club if you love reading. It’s much easier to make connections when you already have something in common.
6. Be open to new experiences.
Whether you’re looking for friends or not, it’s important to try new things. That’s how we grow and discover more hobbies we love! Check out that new coffee place or start volunteering for a local charity. You’ll meet people you may never have crossed paths with otherwise!
7. Remember that less is more.
Having a handful of quality friends is much more fulfilling than juggling more acquaintances than you can handle. Seek out deeper connections with a few people you can trust. Sometimes, less is actually better!
8. Keep in mind that you won’t hit it off with everyone.
Not everyone is meant to be your BFF. Some personalities clash, while others match up perfectly. This is completely normal, so don’t let it discourage you from putting yourself out there! You’ll eventually find the right people for you.
Remember, while it’s important to have people in our lives who care about us, there’s also nothing wrong with wanting to be alone! Only you know what will make you happy, so trust your own judgement.
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