There are countless ways to express love through words and actions, but if you really want to show that special someone you care, the best way is to pinpoint their favorite form of affection — and shower them with it!
Need a little guidance on how to deepen the intimacy in your relationship? Here’s how to start speaking your partner’s love language today.
1. Quality time.
Turn off notifications, put your phone away, and give your partner the undivided attention they crave from you. Have breakfast together, take a stroll, chat about your workdays — whatever you do, make sure it’s just the two of you without any distractions.
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2. Words of affirmation.
Tell your partner you appreciate them, congratulate them on their achievements, encourage them, and thank them for the little things they do for you. Whenever a sweet thought about them pops into your head, voice it! Just a few kind words go a long way.
“For people with this love language, they need to hear, ‘I love you,'” said Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the New York Times best-seller “The 5 Love Languages.” “Even better is including the reasons behind the love; leave them a voice message, a written note, or talking to them directly with sincere words of kindness and affirmation.”
3. Physical touch.
Cuddling up on the couch, holding hands, getting back rubs… fans of touch love it all! Even if you aren’t much of a hugger yourself, make it a point to shower your sweetheart with some form of physical affection every day. It means more to them than you know.
4. Receiving gifts.
People who feel loved when they receive gifts aren’t necessarily looking for something expensive. The thought behind it is what really matters.
“The receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift,” Chapman added. “The trick here is picking the right gift that shows you understand your partner and the effort you made to express love.”
5. Acts of service.
Nothing says “I love you” to someone with a lot on their plate like taking care of to-dos without being asked. Whip up a home-cooked meal, take care of the dishes, fold the laundry, or cover the grocery shopping. Knowing you did these things to make their life easier will make them fall even more in love.
Not sure which love language you or your partner speaks? Take the quiz here! Just remember, it’s the little things that show you care.
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