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“You’re Doing It Wrong. You’ve Messed This Up.” Mom Shares Tips For Ignoring Your Inner Critic, Urges, “Let’s Start Fighting The Lies We Live By.”

This article originally appeared on iMOM.com and reflects their mission and beliefs.

Do you ever hear a critical voice in your head that tells you something you know isn’t true, but you’re tempted to believe it? For me, that voice sounds like my own. For you, it might sound like your mother or even the stranger at the grocery store. You’re doing it wrong. You’ve messed this up. You’re unattractive. The problem with these voices is that they are often lying, but they sound like the truth. What’s worse is they often play on repeat and they become lies we live by.

Let me ask you this. After your kids are grown, do you want to look back on these years and be saddened that you allowed lies to rob you of your joy, peace, and pleasure in parenting? Me neither. So let’s start fighting the lies we live by with the truth. Do you fall for any of these 5 lies?

Lie #1: “No one notices what I do.â€

Truth: “You are LOVED.â€

As moms, we are the ones finishing laundry at 2 a.m. to make sure our son has a clean uniform for practice. We are the ones standing in front of a sink stacked high with dirty dishes two and three times a day. Constantly putting others first without any sign of appreciation is overwhelming. But what I’ve had to come to understand is that even though my kids don’t say thank you on a daily basis, I can always find other ways they love and appreciate me.

Lie #2: “I don’t have enough time or energy.â€

Truth: “You are RESOURCEFUL.â€

Lots of times, I face problems that seem to have no solution. There are times when the kids need to be in three different places at once and I’m racking my brain for ways to work it all out without guilt. Then there are times when I have a deadline for a project, and one of the kids starts throwing up. In these moments, I have learned that I can usually find a way if I pray rather than panic. It may mean I have to be creative and resourceful. Maybe that means calling a friend to help drive, or maybe it means taking a 20-minute power nap so I have the energy to push through and keep working.

Lie #3: “I’m going to fail.â€

Truth: “You are ABLE.â€

Every day, there are millions of moments I can fail. I can miss an opportunity to teach my kids a lesson that can save them pain. I can let my husband down by overcommitting and leaving no time for him. But what I have learned is that God works all things for good. That means my mistakes can have a purpose. Once I stop focusing fearfully on the ways I could mess up, I am free to focus on the ways God can use me to do great things!

Lie #4: “My life is spinning out of control.â€

Truth: “You are STRONG.â€

If you’re at all like me, I’m sure you’re no stranger to the craziness of life. When things start flying off in a million different directions, I immediately feel insecure and out of control. But rather than control things in vain, I’ve learned that the best way to handle these moments is to step back, take a deep breath, and calmly remind myself that God is in control and will give me the strength I need to make it through the tough moments.

Lie #5: “I don’t deserve that.â€

Truth: “You are WORTHY.â€

When someone compliments me or tells me I’m doing a good job, my first reaction is to say something like, “Oh, well you should see what my kitchen looks like right now.”But the reason I respond this way and push away praise is that I believe the lie that I don’t deserve it–because I know how flawed I am. I feel like I’m constantly falling short of perfection. But at some point, we have to realize that we do deserve it! Do you realize that we are worthy of love, admiration, and respect? The next time you are complimented, allow yourself to glow for just a minute. Bask in the praise that you deserve. Consider it a little gift of encouragement from an awesome God who really sees what you do, even if your kids don’t!

I could go on, but I would rather know what lies you live by. Share in a comment!

This article originally appeared on iMOM.com and reflects their mission and beliefs.

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