It’s easy to feel stuck in a rut in your marriage when you are raising tiny monsters. Did I say that? I meant cute little humans. It seems like someone is always crying, spilling something, or breaking my things. Yes, only MY things.
It’s easy to not feel sexy when you’re covered in vomit.
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by everyone’s needs.
It’s easy to forget that the man that you love also needs you too.
He often goes unseen or becomes the back up that I need during the day to day.
But he is not only that.
He is my husband.
The one whom my soul loves.
It’s okay that you do not have the time for a romantic getaway.
It’s okay that you lack the energy to get all fancied up for a night out.
It’s okay that you cannot afford the expensive bottle of champagne.
I’m blessed that he has always made loving him convenient and easy for me.
He knows that I don’t always have much to give him at the end of the day, and sometimes I have nothing at all.
He will settle for a good night kiss and allow me to hide away in a room alone because that is how he loves me.
He puts himself second… actually fourth most of the time.
I have learned the power of little nice things.
A note on his bedside table
A kiss when he is not expecting one
A sweet text while he is at work
His favorite meal at dinner time
A smile for no reason
A shared laugh during a stressful moment
A shared blanket while watching a movie together
A shared dessert… well, actually make that two desserts. (Some things just aren’t meant to be shared.)
The power of the little nice things is one of the many secrets to keeping your marriage strong. In this season we are unable to travel, make big purchases, give extreme gifts, or even pay for babysitters most of the time. But we can do little nice things, and that is all my husband wants from me at the end of the day — to be seen and loved.
As mothers, we often feel like we have more than enough on our plate, but don’t forget about the man standing beside you. Remember that he is your ally, not your enemy. Remember that he is special, too. Remember that he deserves your effort at the end of the day when you’re both worn thin just as much as you deserve his. Remember that you love him and remind him why he loves you so much.