While self-love is important, it’s always a good idea to identify our weaknesses so that we can continually improve ourselves and grow as human beings.
One married couple from Japan recently made waves online after the wife discovered an embarrassing truth about herself, and decided to do something about it.
When Twitter user @c__i__y__o shared her self-discovery and her method of fixing the issue with the internet, her story quickly went viral. Not just because of her innovative approach, but also for the surprising way that her method improved her marriage.
The woman started by acknowledging that she had a problem with her temper. She’d been flying off the handle a lot, and she didn’t feel good about herself whenever she lost her cool. So she created a little chart that she hung in her home, and she asked her husband to stamp the days when she didn’t get angry.
As she explained on Twitter:
To her surprise, her husband took the exercise a step further, proving to her that he loves her and will encourage her in her quest to become a better person. He clearly sees well beyond any of her perceived flaws to the person she is inside; the person who really counts.
While he dutifully kept track of the days when his wife lost her temper, he also included lovely and thoughtful notes for her to read later.
“You look so cute with your haircut. It looks great on you. My beautiful wife makes me feel so lucky.”
Some days he just wrote a quick note, other days he went in depth about the things his wife does that makes her special. Above all else, he goes out of his way to make her feel special and appreciated.
“I had to go back to work after break, but thanks to your help, it was easy. Every time I eat one of the delicious bento lunches you make me, I feel like I’m not alone, and I’m so thankful to have you. Going to the gym on Sundays, and going to Ginza too, we had a full week. Looking forward to next week.”
Some husbands might have taken this exercise as an excuse to “one-up” his wife, but rather than pointing a finger at her by telling her that she had been angry that day, he always softens the blow with kindness.
“We went to the gym a lot this week, we did well. I’m going to do my best, so let’s work hard together.”
The chart became a sort of diary passed between them, deepening their friendship and strengthening their bond with each passing day.
“Thanks for showing [unnamed] around Tokyo over the weekend. It reminded me of when we went to Shirokane together, and was a fun time. So looking forward to our nice house being built!”
“I love you. You are my pillar, my axle, the foundation of everything I do and think. From here on, I want to do everything I can to make you happy, by paying attention to the small things as we continue our life together.”
We can learn a lot from this couple, not just about working together to better ourselves, but also about practicing acceptance in our relationships. Nobody is perfect, but when two imperfect souls find a way to love each other through all of life’s hurdles — that’s about as perfect as it gets.
Please share this story to encourage everyone to practice love, patience, and acceptance in their relationships every single day.