A month or so after a breakup, you will either: 1. Feel like maybe you should have given it another chance, a little more time -or- 2. Wonder why on earth you waited so long. (Oh that hindsight is so very 20/20!)
Whichever it is, please realize, that there is no “perfect day” to break up. You will feel one of these two things. But, the most important thing is to move on with no regrets.
Emotions and relationships are not linear… you have good days, bad days, a good week, a bad month… this is why it’s so difficult to tell when it’s a rough patch or just a rough relationship.
Wherever you are in a breakup, if you feel you need to give it another chance, then give it another chance. However, know that you may end up in Category 2 afterward.
That’s not the end of the world. Category 2 is actually easier to put behind you. You know that you tried EVERYTHING you could, and it wasn’t meant to be. Just let yourself off the hook if you haven’t yet.
You weren’t stupid, naïve, gullible, or anything bad. You just hadn’t learned the lesson yet. Now you have, so, great… you won’t need it again.
Category 1 is also known as the “what if” category. Usually, you were right in breaking it off, but this category is most often for people nostalgically thinking this was “the one that got away.”
You just got out of class a little early that time.
Move on without regrets. Forgive yourself, forgive the other person, and keep the lesson with you always. As long as you do that, not one second was ever wasted.
This story originally appeared on The HiYL