The Making Caring Common Project is a Harvard psychology research initiative focusing on clinical and community research on raising children. They have found that the modern parent tries harder to raise a happy child than a good child.
Researcher Richard Weissbourd writes, “When we prioritize our children’s moment-to-moment happiness over their attention to others, we also rob children of the skills they need to be good friends, romantic partners, colleagues, parents, and grandparents. Yet these gratifying relationships are commonly the strongest and most durable sources of happiness.”
Raising good kids is the best way to assure their long-term happiness. In order to do so there must be a shift from working to make kids happy to working to make them good.
As the novelist Henry James put it: “Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. The third is to be kind.”
Below is the list of 7 strategies for raising caring children put together by the Harvard psychology team.
1. Work to develop caring, loving relationships with your kids
Why: The best way to learn to care for others is to see someone care for you. Also, the closer your child feels to you, the more open they will be to your teaching.
How: Purpose regular time with each child and drive meaningful conversation.
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