“Gossip, as usual, is one-third right and two-thirds wrong.”
It’s a lesson that Constance Hall recently learned the hard way. While in line at the school drop off line Hall noticed a woman she’d never seen before. She was beautiful, put together, and seemingly too ‘posh’ to talk to. After all, why would a woman like that want to be friends with Hall?
At any rate, sound advice from a friend prompted Hall to approach the seemingly snobby woman and talk to her, instead of talking about her. Check out her amazing discovery in the post below.
There was this women at school pick up everyday.
I don’t know what it was about her, she drove a nice car, held her head high and always had a blow dry.
She spoke in a posh accent, wore nice (non stained) clothes and barely ever spoke to me.
There I was, feeding my babies, smelling like dried milk, matted hair, a puffy face from a morning in tears, no shoes and a partial bogan accent..
It was like she was put on this earth to amplify my insecurities.
So I did what a lot of women do and I tried to instigate a “chat” about her to another mum, partly out of intrigue and partly hoping to make my feral self feel better.
But this other mums advice hit me with a big reality check.
“Talk to the woman, not about her”
So one day I decided to talk to her.
I sat next to her on the brick retainer wall outside the kindy room.
I found out she is an ex addict and holds AA meetings to help out other addicted women that want sobriety, I found out she struggles with her marriage, her kids, and her health just like the rest of us. I found out that she is a million things, snobby not being one of them.
She is one of the most inspiring women I know.
Turns out I have a confident exterior too, turns out that while sitting there hating my life without the confidence to talk to these gorgeous mums, they didn’t have the confidence to talk to me, they thought I was too free too relaxed, that I thought I was too cool.
And that mum, is now one of my best friends, we chat about our men together, our kids, and we laugh all the time.
So now that I’m at a new school, I know that a lot of folks have their opinions on me these days and unfortunately a lot of the gossip has gotten back to me, I’d like to remind mums everywhere to..
Talk to the woman not about her.
We’ve all been in Hall’s shoes – assuming that someone else was ‘too good’ for us and would reject an advance toward friendship. Hall’s story should be a reminder to us all. No one knows the heart of a person but those that take the time to look inside. Take the time and do the same.
Share and spread the message.