As every parent knows, each individual child comes with unique experiences, joys, and challenges. For mom Annie Reneau, the distinctions between each of her three children are clear, but there’s something especially different about raising her son versus her two girls.
In her letter, “The Special Bond Between Boys and Their Mamas,” Annie writes that she panicked upon learning she was having a son. She already had two girls at by then, and she explains that she understood girls. “Girls were my jam,” she writes.
Her friends with boys told her to expect the relationship to be different than her relationships with her girls but still special. She dismissed them as “boy moms;” moms who had always wanted boys. As far as Annie was concerned, boys were way out of her comfort zone.
“What was I going to do with a boy?” she recalls wondering when she found out the sex of her third child. “I worried that I wasn’t going to understand him. Worse, I worried that I wasn’t going to love him as much as I loved my girls.”
Now 7 years have passed since that initial panic, and Annie has come to realize her concerns were solely fear-based… Well, mostly.
She concedes that she does not love her son like she loves her girls. But she also doesn’t love her girls like she loves her son. “It’s just different.” She writes:
I really didn’t expect there to be this much of a difference. I’m not generally one to assign specific behaviors or qualities to gender, and always thought it sounded a little sexist for moms to say that their relationships with their sons are different from what they have with their daughters. But in my experience, it’s true. Boys simply adore their mamas. And the feeling is mutual.
Annie used to worry about how she’d handle a boy’s rambunctiousness. And while it’s true—he’s a handful—he also loves her in a way that makes it totally worth it.
“He loves me with a fierceness and intensity that is just different from the love from my girls.”
Annie ends her reflection on the past 7 years with a look toward the future.
My sweet boy will someday become a sweet man. He’ll have many other loves come into his life, and I will happily step aside when they do. Because even though he’ll eventually give his heart to another, I know there’s a dedicated place in it for me. Nothing can replace the bond between a boy and his mama.
What do you think, moms?
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