Shannon Daughtry was talking with her husband, Dustin, when he confided in her something that made her blood absolutely boil. While at the office with over a dozen co-workers, Dustin overheard a blithe young man brag about his brother’s insensitive depiction of a person with a mental handicap. Unable to contain a rebuke, Dustin taught that young man, and everyone in the room a lesson in sensitivity that we all need to hear. Check out his powerful words, written from Shannon’s perspective, below.
“So, I just can’t shake this sad feeling I have had since my husband told me this story today. I wasn’t going to share it, but then decided that if it could enlighten one person, that it would be worth it. My husband, Dustin, was at work yesterday, sitting at a big lunch table of about 15 people. These are all guys that he waves hello to but doesn’t really know on a personal level.
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Anyway, one of the guys starts telling the whole group a story about a Halloween party that he attended this past weekend. The guy says ‘OMG, my brother came to the party and had the best costume. He went as a RETARD! Oh man, it was hilarious!!! He was awesome. He looked like such a good retard!’
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My husband was totally taken aback and just sat there pretty stunned for a moment while he gathered his thoughts. Meanwhile some of the guys were laughing at the story, while some were just listening.
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So Dustin, almost giving the impression that he was going along with it said, with a small smile, ‘Well, wait, what does a retard look like?’ The guy just said ‘I don’t know, but he was good! He was the perfect retard.’
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So a couple seconds go by while Dustin took out his phone and pulled up this picture of our daughter and then pushed his phone to the center of the table. He said ‘This is my little girl, Raegan’ and all the guys, including the storyteller, lean in to look and they all start saying ‘Awww, she’s adorable!’ ‘Wow, Cute kid, man’ etc…
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Dustin then looked at the storyteller and said, ‘Thanks, she is amazing. She has Down syndrome. So, I’m sure you can imagine that I don’t appreciate this costume conversation.’
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‘I’m just wondering, Is she what a retard looks like, to you?’ Of course, mouths dropped and there was total silence while the guy tried to say that wasn’t what he meant, on and on….
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Dustin just went on to explain why that word is so hurtful, shouldn’t be used, and especially how insulting it was to use it as a joke and a costume.
Yeah, I’m sure it was pretty uncomfortable for everyone involved. But I think that those people at the lunch table probably went home with a little better understanding of why that word is so offensive and hurtful, especially to a family like ours. And I think one guy in particular probably went home feeling like a total jerk.
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At least some good came out of it, but it still makes me feel so sad that some people look at our kids as a joke. I’ve said it a thousand times.
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There are so many words in the dictionary that you can use in place of the “R” word. Please, for Raegan’s sake, consider using a different one.” â¤ï¸
Shannon’s words should be a reminder to us all. You never know what battles other people are fighting. Treat them like you would want to be treated, and the world will turn for the better in a hurry.
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